Monday, January 14, 2008

Five Friends Every Woman Should Have

This I like...........

"Friends are the family we choose for ourselves," writer Edna Buchanan once said. I consider the "family" I've gathered—with five kinds of pals I count on for completely different things—among the wisest choices I've made. If you can find even one who embodies any of the characteristics that follow, you can consider yourself fortunate.

1. The Uplifter: This woman's favorite word: yes. You could tell her you're trading your six-figure income for a career in offtrack betting, and she'd barely pause before yelping "Go for it!" Don't you need someone who looks past the love handles to notice the extraordinarily gorgeous you?

2. The Travel Buddy: When the hotel in St. Lucia is a bust, one characteristic becomes all-important: flexibility. This agreeable companion need not be the girl you traded pinkie swears with on the playground; it's enough that she's comfortable with quiet (between gabfests) and is a teensy bit mischievous (as in tequila after midnight).

3. The Truth Teller: Intent is what separates the constructive from the abusive. Once you've established that the hard news is spoken in love (not in jealousy or malice), you'd be smart to seek out this woman's perspective.

4. The Girl Who Just Wants to Have Fun: One Saturday a pal and I—and yes, we're both over age 12—pored over every glitter lip gloss in a drugstore aisle for an entire 45 minutes. Forget the crisis download (for that, see the Uplifter); this partnership is about spontaneous good times.

5. The Unlikely Friend: "Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive," Ana├»s Nin wrote. My friends—some twice my age, others half, some rich, others homeless, some black like me, others Korean, Mexican, Caucasian—have added richness to my life that only variety can bring.

By Michelle Burford

15 comments:

Nyemoni said...

Here I am, wondering which one I am...LOl..i guess we are all multi-faceted...we are different things to different people...at least I am...I can swing one way with this friend and another way with another...it all depends on how we flow...Nice post girl...Tkc!

!*!*!*!*!Fresh and Fab!*!*!*!*! said...

I THINK I LIKE THE TRUE TELLER..THATS THE KIND OF FRIENDS I WANT TO HAVE..ACCUALLY I DO,A FEW.

BECOZ THEY CAN TELL U WAT IS WAT

AND AN UPLIFTER IS ALSO GOOD TO HAVE

Afrobabe said...

That truth teller sure tells you some truth you aren't ready for...unfortunately that is the one I am to most people...

Onome said...

@nyemoni:thanks mami...how u been?:)
@fresh and fab: wat about d unlikely?(lol)
@afrobabe:(lol)...u strike me as a jus wana have fun chic(wink!)....

el~correcta said...

hey how come you likened this to just females??
i have a friend that absolutely belongs to the truth teller category.you could even hate him sometimes cos he's so annoyingly blunt and straight forword,he never goes along with things from just being 'spontaneous'.HELL NO.so,you want the truth at all times.holla at him.
i might be the uplifter.i also try to act the truth teller but its hard to kill people's spirits sometimes...then again i guess i'm not ;)

!*!*!*!*!Fresh and Fab!*!*!*!*! said...

oh yh the unlikely aswell...lol

wats up wiv da comments link..didnt see no probz

Onome said...

@elcorrecta:hehehehe...ok first of, dats d title of the article..its not restricted to chics only...second, good to know u're an uplifter..i like d truth teller so long as u're being honest IN A NICE WAY!!!!
@fresh and fab:yeah yeah....took me ages to access dat link!!! waddup dude?

Florida of Free Spirit said...

Na me o. d truth-teller. Na me dey always talk sense into thses my friends, particuarly if na man matter ... lmao. other times, am d fun-girl. particuarlay 4 d man dept - just no talk say i no warn u say nothing go comot 4rm am (but dey no dey ever hear)

anonymous gal said...

i am no one.yeap thats me 4evr uplifting

Onome said...

@florida and anon gal:really? good to know chics(lol)

Waffarian said...

I love them all! especially "the unlikely friend"

Onome said...

@waffarian:hehehehehe...........dats good:)

Afrobabe said...

I am a fun girl but with open eyes...if its for fun then dont confuse it for something else is what I always tell my friends...yes so you shagged him but what makes you think that made it a relationship?

Onome said...

@afrobabe: shey??? maybe d shag is so sweet dat one party begins to hunger for more dan shag!!!

Afrobabe said...

that is understandable...its only silly when you start acting hurt that he isn't doing all the stuff couples do...